I found this interesting on a Google search.
“Bully Wasn’t Always Negative
The earliest meaning of English bully was “sweetheart.” The word was probably borrowed from Dutch boel, “lover.” Later bully was used for anyone who seemed a good fellow, then for a blustering daredevil. Today, a bully is usually one whose claims to strength and courage are based on the intimidation of those who are weaker.” ~Merriam Webster Online Dictionary
My how things have changed!
I wanted to share a personal story. When our daughters were in school, there was some bullying going on, but nothing like we see today. First of all, they didn’t have cell phones or computers which was a blessing from what we are seeing today. Our oldest daughter seemed to get hit with it mostly. It came in the form of “looking too preppy” so a girl smacked her on the bus. Jenn came home with a hand print across her face. My husband and I showed up at the school the next day to address the situation with the sixth-grade principal.
We saw a young girl sitting outside the principal’s office, but didn’t have a clue as to who she was. As we shared what happened to our daughter, the principal quietly told us the girl who hit Jenn was sitting outside his office. She wasn’t there for hitting Jenn, but because she had broken some other rules. He assured us that he would deal with her quickly. The “bully” seemed to leave Jenn alone after that.
I prayed and asked the Lord to somehow allow me to talk to this girl’s mother. Little did I realize how He would set up this divine appointment a few weeks later.
We took the daily paper and I noticed we had a new delivery person. One day a lady came to our front door to collect for the paper and the Lord spoke into my heart and said, “This is Tony’s mother.” As I am giving the lady the check for the paper, I asked her if she was Tony’s mother. She was surprised that I was asking and she told me that she was not her biological mother but her step-mother. I am thinking, “How did I know this apart from You God?”
I asked her if the principal had called her to tell her what happened to our daughter. She had no idea of the situation and was really embarrassed. Tony’s step-mother started sharing the sad life that this girl had lived and how after her mother had died of cancer, she went to live with her father and his new family. There was a lot of anger and rebellion. Life in their household was very stressed. We sat down in our living room and I listened to this precious woman share her heart and how she loved Tony and wanted to see her wounded soul healed. I prayed with her and encouraged her to find a good church where the whole family could be healed and grow in Christ.
Fast forward to the next summer and the church we attended was doing a Backyard Bible Club. I kept seeing a young girl with some younger children come to the porch of their home across the street the first few days. By the third day Jenn asks me if she can invite the girl and her siblings. That girl was Tony. I was so proud of our daughter. She was willing to forgive and put the past behind her. Tony and her siblings came to the Backyard Bible Club that week. Tony came to the Lord and she shared how her family started going to a church after her “Mother” met with me. They were all in pastoral counseling and she realized how much her father and new Mother loved and cared for her.
The girl physically had changed. The hardness was gone and there was a sweetness and glow on her sweet face.
But I want to go back to, “Dealing with the Bully In Your Life.”
I like to do it God’s way rather than the way of the world. That means taking it to The Father and crying out to Him for guidance and His solution.
But our hearts had to be right and Jenn needed to be able to forgive…all of us did.
Little did we know that He was setting up a divine appointment to help get Tony’s family in a place where they would cry out to Him also.
When we walk in love and forgiveness, we literally give God the freedom to bring solutions in such a way that we see the miracle of healing in relationships in so many ways.
We had another time when we moved to another town and Jenn was in high school. She came home very upset and said that a male teacher was bullying her. After it happened a second time we were ready to go to the school. But we prayed and Jenn went to school and talked to her counselor. The counselor pulled the teacher in and he apologized to Jenn. We never had to go to the school. Again, God took care of it when we prayed.
Do we allow the physical abuse of bullies? Never! In our case when Jenn was slapped, we reported it to the school and God even allowed the parent to come to our front door so I could share what happened. We didn’t have to go to the authorities, but if it would have continued, we would have done so in a heartbeat.
Parents, grandparents and guardians, please listen to your children. They are special treasures that need to be protected. Check their phones and their social media. Be their advocate at all times. If you don’t protect them, who will? Pray for your children and those who bully. The scripture tells us to pray for those who persecute us (your kids) and to love your enemies (your kids’ enemies). There is more going on in the unseen that God wants to expose and heal. Be a catalyst for healing.
1 Peter 5:8 (ESV)
8 Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.
The above scripture tells us that the adversary, the enemy of our soul, wants to destroy us. He wants to destroy our families and all that God calls good. This scripture also calls us to be vigilant and watchful. I for one will not allow the enemy to devour my family. You can depend on the fact that I am standing vigilant for their sake through prayers of intercession. The scripture also tells us that we are not dealing with flesh and blood.
Ephesians 6:10-12 (ESV)
10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. 11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.
Our battles are won on our knees!
I close with this blessing! I encourage you to pray it over your children every morning. If God is for them, who can stand against them!
Numbers 6:24-26 (AMP)
24 The Lord bless you and watch, guard, and keep you; 25 The Lord make His face to shine upon and enlighten you and be gracious (kind, merciful, and giving favor) to you; 26 The Lord lift up His [approving] countenance upon you and give you peace (tranquility of heart and life continually).